Exes Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin consciously uncoupled back in 2016 and have been co-parenting their two children Apple and Moses ever since. Paltrow got remarried in 2018 (to producer Brad Falchuk) while Martin has continued to date (he’s currently paired up with actor Dakota Johnson) as the two work to remain equal positive influences in their kids’ lives.“Some days it’s not as good as it looks,” Paltrow told her friend Drew Barrymore during a recent appearance on Barrymore’s new talk show. “We also have good days and bad days, but I think it’s driving towards the same purpose of unity and love and what’s best for [our kids].”Barrymore is also co-parenting two children, Olive and Frankie, with ex-husband Will Kopelman and credited Paltrow with offering a "beacon of hope" to divorced parents everywhere.
"You have to have radical accountability," Paltrow said. "You have to know that every relationship is 50/50 no matter how you think you were wronged or how bad you perceive the other person's actions... if you are brave enough to take responsibility for your half and really look at your own garbage and your own trauma and how it's presenting in the world and in your relationship, then there's really somewhere to go... and you're holding this other person in the sphere of humanity."Naturally, even parents who remain married aren’t always going to agree on how to best raise their children but two homes can mean two sets of rules and, ultimately, a disagreement (or two) that former couples have no choice but to work through. “It’s like you’re ending a marriage but you’re still in a family. That’s how it will be forever,” said Paltrow, who admitted her relationship with Martin now is better than their marriage was.[video_embed id='1933785']RELATED: Gwyneth Paltrow hints that isolation has made her sexually frustrated [/video_embed]When it comes their 16 and 14-year-old, the actor says, “We all are trying our best. I really wanted my kids to not be traumatized, if it were possible,” she explained. “Chris and I committed to putting them first and that’s harder than it looks because some days you really don’t want to be with the person that you are getting divorced from. But if you’re committed to having family dinner, then you do it. And you take a deep breath and you look the person in the eye and you remember your pact and you smile and you hug… and recommit to this new relationship that you are trying to foster.”Paltrow and Martin have employed professionals to advise them on the best way to remain co-parents after ending their marriage (PSA: the doctor who helped them is writing a book!). Gwyn said that the first step to becoming un-coupled co-parents was to recognize they were once a couple for good reasons: “We have this idea,” said Paltrow, “that just because we break up we can’t love the things about the person anymore that we loved and that’s not true.”[video_embed id='-1']BEFORE YOU GO: Pet raccoon eats strawberry but is not a fan of the stem [/video_embed]
